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Blogs > hotdreamer1000 > While I was Dreaming

The Future  

hotdreamer1000 64M
8677 posts
10/24/2008 5:02 am

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10/29/2008 6:45 am
The Future

We talked for such a long time. It felt.....comforting. But not very long after I began to miss her again already, even though I know she is still there for me. It makes for tough day, just working to keep everything together and pay the bills.

I know what I have to do next, but I don't know if I can. But not wanting to sound too much like Zandigal, (lol ) at least I have a PLAN.

I don't think it is a very good one, but it is the only one I've got. Even if it works I don't like the look of the future much. But maybe my life had become too dull and boring anyway - a few bad times might liven it up. Maybe after a few months of tough times things will either get much much better, or I will be starting out on a wild adventure - that's good even if it ends in disaster right?

rm_cum2kissu2 59F
10784 posts
10/24/2008 6:41 am

 Doing SOMETHING is ALWAYS better than doing NOTHING at all.

Remember, Two negatives make a positive.

I firmly believe that for every bad thing there are two good things waiting in the wings.
Who knew i was such an optimist, but there you have it.....
I bloody well am! Ha

There is ALWAYS light to lead us out of the gloom, sometimes it's faint at first, ya just gotta keep looking for it & going forward.

Dreamy Hun, you'll be okay,
you really will.
I know it!!!

Kizza


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
10/24/2008 9:06 am
    Quoting  :
The taking a deep breath part helped!

On the other stuff - well it was confusing, but it made me think that when something just keeps on telling you you need to do something and it will be worthwhile even if it doesn't seem perfect or easy, in the end you have to listen to that voice, don't you.

On the other hand in the past I have let go of plenty that didn't work and then the new things which I keep finding only work for a little while too. For a long time I have been thinking that maybe if I really hung on for once it might be okay!


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
10/24/2008 9:07 am
    Quoting rm_cum2kissu2:
    Doing SOMETHING is ALWAYS better than doing NOTHING at all.

    Remember, Two negatives make a positive.

    I firmly believe that for every bad thing there are two good things waiting in the wings.
    Who knew i was such an optimist, but there you have it.....
    I bloody well am! Ha

    There is ALWAYS light to lead us out of the gloom, sometimes it's faint at first, ya just gotta keep looking for it & going forward.

    Dreamy Hun, you'll be okay,
    you really will.
    I know it!!!

    Kizza
You deserve to be feeling optimistic at the moment Kizza.


rm_cum2kissu2 59F
10784 posts
10/25/2008 9:36 am
    Quoting hotdreamer1000:
    You deserve to be feeling optimistic at the moment Kizza.
We all deserve it Hun, that means you too.

I've had my desperately sad times, very recently, but i have to hold onto the things i believe, like two good things for every bad one.
If i didn't I'd never climb out of the mire.

Hang in there Hun, just breathe.

Kizza


hippiechick1967 60F  
13154 posts
10/25/2008 10:54 am
    Quoting  :
This is SO true. What IS it about some of us that feel the need to take a situation that isn't working and make it work? For me, I think I feel that anything worth having is worth working for, and if he will just __________ (fill in the blank with the problem du jour), then he will have proved that he loves me. Pretty pathetic, huh?
Elevate me...


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
10/27/2008 5:12 am
    Quoting hippiechick1967:
    This is SO true. What IS it about some of us that feel the need to take a situation that isn't working and make it work? For me, I think I feel that anything worth having is worth working for, and if he will just __________ (fill in the blank with the problem du jour), then he will have proved that he loves me. Pretty pathetic, huh?
There is truth in there hip, but I'm not in agreement about all secret is saying. One thing I am pretty sure about is that (as you say) things worth having are worth working for. In a relationship, (even if it was one which was closer to perfect than most of us ever get, lol, ) there is still a need to work at some things - that is just how life is. Don't start giving up on your willingness to work at these things, maybe just don't expect someone else to be able to change very much, and don't go looking to test people into proving they love you. When someone loves you, you they prove it to you in their own way I think, and you just know they do do somewhere inside you.

I think my difficulty comes from finding it hard to know when something really can't be fixed and it is time to stop working.


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
10/27/2008 5:18 am
    Quoting  :
Yes - I agree about actually getting on and fixing things if they are fixable, rather than saying "if only" and wishing.

And you are right that some things simply can't be fixed. I think I am not always very good at recognizing which things are beyond fixing, because it can vary so much! But I do totally get that thinking "if only .......then it would be perfect" about something which clearly isn't going to change is a complete waste of energy, and keeps us from recognising other good things.

I don't actually think I am doing that at the moment, but I will be on my guard against it just in case, thank you, and worth far more than the nothing I have paid!


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
10/27/2008 5:22 am
    Quoting rm_cum2kissu2:
    We all deserve it Hun, that means you too.

    I've had my desperately sad times, very recently, but i have to hold onto the things i believe, like two good things for every bad one.
    If i didn't I'd never climb out of the mire.

    Hang in there Hun, just breathe.

    Kizza
I'm hanging in. Some days are better than others. Your friendship is a help as always.


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
10/27/2008 3:20 pm

 I think the thing about the fairytale romance is that the story tends to end with "and they lived happily ever after." But that is where the rest of your life begins, and it is nver part of the story. The hard part is keeping the happy in the ever after when all the excitement of the initial romance together has died down. The raw emotions turn to real love and then into a real life, into which other things, people and events intrude. And to stay happy ever after through all that takes work, however strong the romance.


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