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Being Guided
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Being Guided I sometimes read comments by men who say they really know how to make a woman come. Women also fantasise, understandably, about sex with a man who has the perfect touch. But I don't really see it that way. Maybe I'm just not good enough in bed, lol, but the way I see it is this: A woman knows how to come, all we do is facilitate or intensify the process. I like this way of thinking about sex - I love to be guided: "Mmmmm, just there.........mmmm oh yes, just like that........a little bit harder.......oh my god yes, yes, don't stop." Just thinking of those words is turning me on. "I need you in me," - a sharp intake of breath - "Thssss....... ahhhhh....... a little bit slower rhythm, harder and faster strokes, Mmmm yes, Yes." Sometimes you get so in tune with someone that these words are no longer needed. But the thought of them, the process they create, is still happening. I am turned on by the thought of a woman using me to help her come. If my thoughts and responses are turning her on too, then all the better. I love to see the light of her thoughts - that evidence of our harmony - in her eyes. |
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1/29/2013 11:44 am |
Nice one
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Nice one
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It's true, I do like to be attentive, and I know how much you love to be the teacher, lol. But also, yes, you do seem to be in the grip of a heightened sense of sexual awareness at the moment!
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Thanks comanchera, although judging from the list of posts you are recommending, it seems this is a bit of a theme of yours. But I am flattered by your compliment all the same. But...."all men should read it"? And there was I hoping all women would read it, lol!
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mmmm you make some excellent points and in general I agree, I've always tried to provide appropriate encouragement positively reinforcing what is working and asking for anything that might add to the experience, but there are those wonderful though admittedly rare occurrences when I don't have to drive or steer or even think, all cylinders are firing at 100% and I just get to enjoy the trip. Or perhaps in those cases the magician is just incredibly adept at reading all my non-verbal cues,... you are no doubt far better than you would ever allow yourself to say though hopefully not to think. I really enjoyed this post, I had such fun thinking this one through  Good girls go to heaven,....Bad girls go EVERYWHERE! I love to travel  Come visit my blog tigger678902
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You are definitely on the right track here, and this is a subject I am passionate about. I feel strongly that a man does not MAKE a woman come. She is responsible for her own orgasm, she should know the triggers and what works best for her. Now, if only I had someone with whom to test my theory. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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Oh I completely understand why you want men to read posts like this - I've seen so many posts describing the endless "wanna-fuck" emails -it must be awful having to read the stuff some of them write, let alone having to sleep with them! I wasn't saying women should read my post 'cos they need to learn how to guide a man, (although there might be a very few who do need to learn to do that, ) it was just a joke at my own expense meaning I wanted sexy women to read my post and be turned on, rather than wanting men who couldn't care less crawling all over my blog! Lol.
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mmmm you make some excellent points and in general I agree, I've always tried to provide appropriate encouragement positively reinforcing what is working and asking for anything that might add to the experience, but there are those wonderful though admittedly rare occurrences when I don't have to drive or steer or even think, all cylinders are firing at 100% and I just get to enjoy the trip. Or perhaps in those cases the magician is just incredibly adept at reading all my non-verbal cues,... you are no doubt far better than you would ever allow yourself to say though hopefully not to think. I really enjoyed this post, I had such fun thinking this one through But picking up on non-verbal clues is of course just as important, and a man does need to know how to interpret them. Of course no amount of guiding will help if a guy isn't attentive to it, and if he is attentive, he probably only needs minimal guiding! Phew, all this theory - maybe one day I will get back into regular practice!
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"A woman knows how to come, all we do is facilitate or intensify the process.' That line works both ways!!! However, it really isn't as simple as that. That comment combined with the entirety of your post speaks volumes that I don't think you really even realized what you said. Pleasing a partner should be paramount. That makes it a win/win if both people are in sync. Can we all take care of ourselves on our own? Of course we can, but to have a partner that makes you salivate when you think about them is so much better, don't you think? Trust, technique and intensity are what make a great sexual experience for me over the top. That is what makes me want more. Everyone has their triggers and communication is how we all learn what works for each of us. I am all about verbal communication. Hearing the words sends me over the top. And I have been told that the sounds I make when I am in that state are a very clear indication that he is doing it right! And when I can do that for my partner in reverse . . . . .  I just love win/wins don't you? If I have stopped by your blog, please be sure to sign my permission slip Pimp Me, Pimp My Blog, But Let Me Do The Same With You 
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"A woman knows how to come, all we do is facilitate or intensify the process.' That line works both ways!!! However, it really isn't as simple as that. That comment combined with the entirety of your post speaks volumes that I don't think you really even realized what you said. Pleasing a partner should be paramount. That makes it a win/win if both people are in sync. Can we all take care of ourselves on our own? Of course we can, but to have a partner that makes you salivate when you think about them is so much better, don't you think? Trust, technique and intensity are what make a great sexual experience for me over the top. That is what makes me want more. Everyone has their triggers and communication is how we all learn what works for each of us. I am all about verbal communication. Hearing the words sends me over the top. And I have been told that the sounds I make when I am in that state are a very clear indication that he is doing it right! And when I can do that for my partner in reverse . . . . . I just love win/wins don't you? Yes, I agree of course. But if both partners are intent on pleasing the other then I think you can get to that mind-blowingly wonderful point where you can both relax enough to not only luxuriate in pleasing each other, but also to concentrate on your own pleasure too, because you know they can get off on it. That is a real win/win I think. (Perhaps that's what you meant, lol! ) but what was it you thought I said but didn't even realise I had said? - You didn't make that clear.
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I'll admit to having a rough idea how to handle a woman Ama, yes. But the thing I find most often is that for every individual person there is a lot of new stuff to learn. And it sounds like you are having a very pleasant learning experience!
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You are definitely on the right track here, and this is a subject I am passionate about. I feel strongly that a man does not MAKE a woman come. She is responsible for her own orgasm, she should know the triggers and what works best for her. Now, if only I had someone with whom to test my theory. I didn't do anything special physically, but I made her realise that what was going on in her mind was part of the key, and once we had opened that lock so to speak, wow! In the process I learnt a great deal about my own responses and how to intensify them. I think not everyone does know their own triggers - first you have to know they are there to be learnt. You may even have to create them. Good to see you visiting, and I wish you luck finding your next test pilot!
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I'm glad you enjoyed the post, actually it was meant just to be enjoyed really, rather than making a point. But having said that, you are absolutely right, there are times when neither partner needs to steer or think - they are brilliant times, sort of what I was describing at the end of my post. But do they ever happen on the first time with someone? I'm not sure I've ever had that experience first time. But picking up on non-verbal clues is of course just as important, and a man does need to know how to interpret them. Of course no amount of guiding will help if a guy isn't attentive to it, and if he is attentive, he probably only needs minimal guiding! Phew, all this theory - maybe one day I will get back into regular practice! Good girls go to heaven,....Bad girls go EVERYWHERE! I love to travel Come visit my blog tigger678902
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I have actually had the bliss of finding a partner who knew exactly what I wanted soft in just the right amount and just rough enough at exactly the right time,...though to be completely honest it was in my very younger dayss when I did not actually orgasm during sex with a partner youth really is wasted on the young. So he knew exactly what you wanted only in as much as he was considerate and experienced, and it felt pretty good and you had no real idea what you really wanted?! Lol. Nice memory to have though, don't listen to my teasing and ruin it!
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What?
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Oh wait - I've worked it out, you were shushing me for my reply to you but you must have clicked on the wrong link. Okay, lips sealed, sorry. Either that or you were telling me off for referring back to the past again, lol.
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Sometimes I feel special, and you always help with that.
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I have a dildo with suction cups that I can attach to the bathtub to masturbate on; it's no different from some men I've been with that wanted me to get myself off. (I know that wasn't the intention of your post - it's just what immediately popped into my head.) Elevate me... 
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I have a dildo with suction cups that I can attach to the bathtub to masturbate on; it's no different from some men I've been with that wanted me to get myself off. (I know that wasn't the intention of your post - it's just what immediately popped into my head.)
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Lol, but I only feel special sometimes!
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Lol, thanks for the compliment mmss, but I have never been called "quiet" before!
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Ok, I'll trust you on that.
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