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See where being polite gets you...
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See where being polite gets you... It was pointed out to me that simply deleting emails instead of sending a response letting people know I am not interested was very rude of me. Being the person that I am, I set about to correct the situation and started using the thanks but not interested quick response. Now I have to ask why I bothered. The second I started doing so, I started getting emails back asking me why I wasn't interested and what to change on the profile so that I would be interested. When did it become not enough to say that you aren't interested? Why should I have to explain why I have no attraction to someone? If I am not interested, there is nothing on said profile that can be manipulated to change my mind. Not only that but if my gut tells me that I should avoid a certain person, sending obsessive emails only confirms what I thought originally. So, random thoughts of the day... Mudding sure is a blast, but clean-up is a bitch. Especially when you aren't tall enough to reach, much less see the top of the cab. I bet it looked hilarious when I was standing in the bed trying to clean it. Not to mention I was stumbling over 8 tires trying to get there. I wasn't about to clean around them, so the bed is still a mess. Apparently the new trend on A F F is to not let someone reply when your profile is turned off. So if you have sent an email with your profile turned off, I wasn't ignoring you, there was just no way to respond. If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to be a horrible warning. |
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"The [Beautiful]Phantom knows..., so, beware all you "certain" individuals {snicker snicker, laughing evilly} 
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The best way to reduce the amount of mail you get and not appear rude is to turn on your profile filter. It will prevent people who do not meet your criteria from emailing you. Thus you do not have to send a "Thanks, but no thanks" letter. As far as WHY people send a second letter asking why you are not attracted or interested, I am not sure. Tenacity is a valued trait in the business world, sports and academia. It DOES NOT work in the dating world. They created restraining orders for such activity. I think people believe their online profile is a resume, and by changing it, it will suddenly make them more attractive to you. It is illogical behavoir and will probably never be sucessfully explained.
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8/4/2007 7:47 pm |
I think you can block members. Might be worth sending the quick response and blocking them all at once. I for one am very grateful when I get the auto "not interested" response. It's very courteous. Obviously the women on this site don't have the same problem. But just imagine finding that guy with the pepsi can cock, gorgeous smile, piercing eyes and charming profile. You write him and wait with the slightest sense of anticipation for his reply. He reads it, decides he's too busy to bother right now. And never writes you back to say "no thank you". It's just rude.
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