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Blogs > rm_passion071 > ISO ..Sexual healing?

New rules for meeting....  

rm_passion071 64M
23 posts
6/25/2013 2:00 pm
New rules for meeting....

I have met a couple of people on here and things have gone well, gone better than expected, and gone badly. I assume those are the only 3 options until I am surprised by another. Recently I had lunch with a lady with whom I have been emailing. Things seemed to be going swimmingly until day three- when there was a noticable pull back.

Today we scheduled lunch and I half assumed she would NOT show. I arrived 15 minutes early and went in. She actually showed up. It was ackward as it usually is. The conversation was light and slightly forced. Unfortunately for both of us there was no real connection.

So I am wondering what to do differently. and so are born new rules.

Because of the nature of the relationship I am seaching for I need and require discretion So there really can't be any PDA (Public displays of Affection)Which means I wont fawn over anyone or Kiss and hug them. This might leave a bad or reserved first impression. Not exactly my intention. I usually bring a small private gift if I can.
But the restaurant atmosphere and the proximity of the seat usually limits the conversation.

So My new rules.

1.)A public place

Agree to meet for drinks or lunch. but agree ahead of time to find some place private to talk. Public by sight private for talking.

2.) a Private conversationDon't meet if there is no chemistry before hand, Chances are there won't be after you meet either.

3.) Agree to another meeting before hand - if its not DOA (dead on arrival) ie the person is NOTHING like they described.

4.) Both parties must clearly define what they want. I meet a lot of nice people who don't understand what it really takes and aren't clear on what they want. (OK they ARE clear on 1 thing but they haven't really thought it out.

5.) Agree to limit the PDA's and that limited PDA'S is NO indication of limited attraction or desire.

One of the other things that makes this A little harder is that I am looking for a soulfull connection NOT just a QF and these things RARELY come about in an instant. (nice when they do but it's RARE!)

Any other suggestions?
R.B.
Passion071
I am in the Mood for Love... Hot, Passionate, Toe curling, soul-satisfying love.
rm_passion071 64M
395 posts
7/12/2013 1:59 pm

 PDA= Public Display of Affection. Kissing, holding hands public fondling.

If I were in your country it wouldn't matter. If I would on a business trip in an other state, it wouldn't matter. but close to home it does.

I make my living by networking so I am once step down from a public person- I am known in certain circles.
R.B.
Passion071
I am in the Mood for Love... Hot, Passionate, Toe curling, soul-satisfying love.


rm_4jasmine2 53F
10698 posts
7/2/2013 11:50 pm

 I have often found that chemistry seems much stronger over the net. Once meeting up, it seems different and not always as good as one hoped for.

Be honest with pics. If people are going to meet in any case, one might as well show the real you from the beginning.

Public but private meeting is ideal!

Don't understand PDA's?
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