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Why A Friends With Benefits Situation?
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Why A Friends With Benefits Situation? I was just pondering this question for the last few days or so, about this very topic. Why have a Friends with benefits situation? Why would one want to have this especially a female? Why not a LTR? Well to answer these questions I took some time out to do some soul searching, and the answer to these questions for me is this. First off I do want to have a LTR someday! I'll know when and only I'll know when that time is right for me and me alone. Second I love sex. I absolutely love it. I find that alot of times when you're in a mongomous relationship LTR with someone usually after a while the sex dwindles down to nothing! Especially if your mate gets sick and also has a weight problem etc. I think that you get the picture! I also think that having a Friends with Benefits situation can be very beneficial. I can have my fun and also the friendship that goes along with it. My friends and I don't just have sex althopugh that's a major part of the relationship we also go out to dinner, ,movies, concerts, or just hang out and talk to one another. It's so cool!! Like I said before until I feel that the time is right for me and I meet that one person whom I would like to have a LTR with this situation is ideal for me. I welcome to hear from anyone with comments and or opinions on this subject. HAVE A HAPPY NEW YEAR DIVAWOMAN4REAL    [COLOR i |
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12/29/2008 5:23 pm |
I think the basic instinct for all of us is a LTR. However, we all have needs for companionship and sex. Let's face it; it's a very primal instinct. The only real problem that I see with a FWB is the "social stigma" that tends to go along with it. We are all somewhat afraid of being judged by our friends, relatives, and peers in general. I think that if you could get really honest answers from folks that you'd find that most would opt for the FWB situation during the interim period of finding someone that might be a good candidate for the LTR. Additionally, a FWB or FWBs, can be a fun situation to be in!!! Enjoy!
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This not just a tricky issue for women. It is for men also. There is a lot more to sex than just the physical aspect. There are emotions to take into consideration. It can be done. In a sense you need to set parameters for how involved are you going to be. Are there social and other situations you want them to be with you or is it that you get together and screw and then each go your own way. Sometimes these things go differently than we expect so just be aware of that. Take care.
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You've described it perfectly. That's what I would like to find as well. AB No Bozos
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Hi LeREoi, As always you bring some great insight into my blogs that I write. I thank-you for that! Yes it's definitely decided between the two people usually what kind of relationship that they want and hopefully that's decided during the very begining stages of the relationship. I like to meet the person first and have a cup of coffee with them,sit down and discuss what we're both looking for and hopefully it's a mutual agreement for a FWB situation and if , no chemistry occurs then we can go our seperate ways with no unhurt feelings. I only think that feelings can get involved if you are not being honest with yourself about what it is that you really want out of the relationship. I did fall for a guy one time when I was in this situation. He could not put in the time for a relationship so I did cut him loose. It hurt for awhile then I got over it. You live and you learn! Have a Happy New Year!DivaWoman4Real [COLOR i
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You've described it perfectly. That's what I would like to find as well. AB DivAWOMAN4REAL [COLOR i
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12/30/2008 11:28 am |
HAPPY NEW YEAR LOVE TO CHAT WITH YOU SOMETIME
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1/2/2009 5:08 pm |
If a couple really loves each other they will find ways to keep their sex life strong.Our's has always been great,but adding other people to it has really enhanced it, to emotions that we sometimes never new we had for one another.More trust,understanding,love,and just watching each other enjoying life doing things that some don't understand.Understanding each other or other people takes alot of time and is usally worth it in the end.We have made alot of wonderful friends from this life style and when the sex is involved it just helps make people closer then they might have otherwise been.In this world closeness is a wonderful thing and very hard to come by.Diva,Whatever you feel is rite for you go for it and don't worry about what others think cause they don't live in your mind or body.Luv G&K
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