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That is really a crappy thing to do! Of course now, you know, you will have to endure her endless phone calls while she is in need of emotional support. I was unemployed for a year once...I can feel her pain, and she has a child to support. Insurance will be a big concern. Best wishes...and good luck! I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN HAPPINESS!! (MY LIFE'S PHILOSOPHY)
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That is really a crappy thing to do! Of course now, you know, you will have to endure her endless phone calls while she is in need of emotional support. I was unemployed for a year once...I can feel her pain, and she has a child to support. Insurance will be a big concern. Best wishes...and good luck! Luckily she isn't much of a "woe is me" person, she's already working out a plan. Her father in Seattle, who is pretty comfortably wealthy, promised to help her out if she needs it. She's already talking about selling her place and moving out of Pittsburgh, since for her line of work her employer is really the only game in town. She asked how I would feel about her moving to North Carolina. I'm a bit hesitant, as it would make Katie pretty insecure, but she really wants to be here, or close to here like Virginia or Washington DC. A lot of her best friends live in Virginia. What a horrible place to be laid off -- Pittsburgh. Her husband (soon to be ex) got laid off last year and is still unemployed there.
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I hope her plan isn't trying to scheme her way into a relationship with you. She saw how wonderful you were with the baby...she may be looking for baby daddy...and she already knows what a great guy you are. I guess I see red flags. Be careful! If she moves closer and sees you more often, you could lose Katie or it may come down to you possible have to make a decision sooner then you wish or maybe having to choose one or the other. I would hate for you to lose a good longtime friend like Kerry, but if it didn't work before...would it now? And you were miserable without Katie when she was with Antoine and couldn't decide what to do. You mentioned she gave you an ultimatum of a year, no marriage, she moves on...do you really want to lose her? Appears as if you have some real soul searching and maybe some decisions to make. You seem like a really wonderful person. I guess if Kerry moves nearby, and I am not sure how good you are at setting boundaries, but think Kerry made need some ground rules so that she doesn't come in and take over your life. Or perhaps I am just full of shit and being this armchair psychologist...I may need to be told to shut the heck up and keep my opinions to myself! I am enjoying getting to know you though...just so you are aware! I am back to my old spunky self after having the flu last few days! I just unleashed my opinion on you...take it for what its worth I guess. You all seem like great people...I would hate for any of you to get hurt. I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN HAPPINESS!! (MY LIFE'S PHILOSOPHY)
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Well you raise an interesting point, about Kerry's intentions. She has always had the power to sneak in under my radar, and she often has a way of making the universe bend to her will. Combine those two facts with dangling serious fine pussy in my face and I admit my judgment may have been compromised. It's too late to worry, though, about a relationship with Kerry, because we're already in one. We have been close friends and lovers for about 20 years now, I can't really imagine my life without her. She's really intimately bound up in who I am and she is responsible in large part for shaping me into the sensitive man you know and love. I would have been such a different person I think without her love and friendship. That said, we could NEVER date again. As friends we have an arm's-length emotional distance that saves us from hating each other. Her idea of love is to possess someone body and soul, where even the guy's opinions have been implanted by her. Any attempt at individuality is like inciting revolution and showing disloyalty. My idea of love is acceptance, wonder, admiration, and devotion. In a dating relationship with her, my whole being gets swallowed up and we play to each other's weaknesses and feed each other's demons. We've tried it a few times and it was always a disaster. Being friends is different and nice. When you are Kerry's soulmate, every little thing is crucially important and has this incredible amount of stress laid on it. So there is no just going out for a bite to eat with her soulmate. Then it's a date, and it has to be the best restaurant in town or nothing, and if he drops his napkin or the waiter screws up the order or the food is awful, she gets angry and turns into a flaming bitch and treats everyone like shit for ruining her important fantasy. As friends, we go out and fill our stomachs, and it could be a McDonalds and she doesn't turn it into a big scene. If you are her soulmate she gives you jobs and it's critically important that each one gets done and each is as important as the other, whether it's paying bills, doing taxes, or getting a certain shade of nail polish at the store. She orders you to do nearly everything, presuming your free time is hers to control. As friends though, I am treated as broken or simple or something, which is great. She sees me as unreliable, so she doesn't depend on me. As friends I have better insight into her as a person. She shares things without fearing that I will judge her or stop worshiping her. On the other hand, as a friend we have sex only when she wants to, and she is often saying it doesn't obligate her to do it again. So every encounter feels like it's lucky, and also like it might be the last. You can't presume too much or she will yank it away. With her soulmate she is more likely to pleasure you when you want it. And she was more affectionate in the everyday things. So, I believe her story about wanting to live closer to her friends, and most of them live in the Washington DC area. They could watch Liam while she goes on dates and such. But North Carolina is tempting to her for just the reason you say, that she knows I love the baby and perhaps that was carefully engineered on her part. Possibly. She could probably count on me to hang with Liam while she goes on dates and such. I would be fine with being used like that. However, insomuch as I might get asked to watch Liam when my girlfriend Katie wants to go out, I see that as a tremendous problem. I guess we're getting ahead of ourselves thinking over all the possibilities. Who knows what is going to happen?
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YUCK! That sucks! I'm so sorry to hear it.
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