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Are men afraid of love...
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Are men afraid of love... I met a friend tonight for coffee and i was explaining why men have a difficult time falling in love. He advised me that is the hurt that he is afraid of...being vulnerable and putting himself out to be hurt. Well i have been hurt in love so many times yet i still put myself out there waiting for one good man. My friend said people have different needs. I could only agree with him. My question however, is this....are men afraid of being hurt by women and thus just settle for sex. If so...what is your mindset when this occurs?? All replies will be answered. Just trying to get into the mindset of a man....even if i dont have a penis.   ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much.. |
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in my experience with men they carry torches for woman they once loved for a long long time...they dont fall easy so when they do it's a long time before they get over it, women on the other hand tend to fall in and out of love easier and get over it quicker so they seem to be more willing to put it out there than men do...    je ne regrette rien
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Falling in love is hard, having sex is easy. Men are somewhat lazy so we take the easier path. Sometimes the sex turns to love, other times the love happens first and then the sex happens.
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I have to agree with nd2hvfun... I believe men are much slower to fall into love and slower to heal from an emotional injury than women. I have held a torch for a few women for over 5 years. Each of them were very special to me and remain important to me. For many men, NSA sex is much easier, and emotionally safer than opening up emotionally again after a relationship breakdown divorce or betrayal. I think men find recovering from an emotional scar much harder because we don't really have ways of expressing our emotions unlike women, so it takes much longer. Gay Hookup Zone is full of men AND women who don't want the emotional bonds of a relationship but want the physical intimacy of sex... I view most people looking for NSA sex as the "emotionally damaged" or "emotionally unavailable" who aren't yet able to have healthy loving relationships... DS Arouse the mind, then the body follows eagerly... Blog: The Erotic Art of Sensual Domination [blog Dom]       
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Egads...i was responding to all of your individual comments and it got lost. I was referring to men not being able to show their true emotions out, men carrying torches instead of letting out their inner feelings exposed. About the chastitity belt...well that is why i have many Bobs. I have killed three rabbits already!!!! To that of little boys being taught as youngsters to keep feelings inside rather than to expose their true emotions. sf native....i am so sorry that you had to put your love on a limb and be taken advantage of. How hurtful that must have made you feel. Then to Dominant Soul...some women fall in love easy. I tend to have walls around my heart to protect it and my heart is that of an onion. It has many layers to peel before the final onion is exposed. And i so agree with you about many people on Gay Hookup Zone only wanted FWB or NSA relationships...to avoid getting hurt. But in life we are never guaranteed a garden full of roses. Real life sometimes hurts. But in the end the ones who have had the layers removed from the onion are the winners in the long run. I want to wish all my friends a life full of happiness and love. Love makes the world a much sweeter place to live. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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I know fundmore but it is called Gay Hookup Zone!!! So where in the rules does it stat that one cannot look for love. I belong to other sites but i like this one for blogging and getting people's perspectives. Is this so wrong??? ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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True enough shurgrrrr. I so agree with you but not all women are high maintencance. Sure there are the ones who do but some of us are basic women. But i do agree with loving a man. Give him all th sex he requires to be faithful ( or hope so), feed him well and allow him to hang out with his buddies and you have a relationship. But not all women need to be constantly told they are loved. They can feel the love their man shows her. Not always needing confirmation about how they do feel. One thing i did with my exhusband is when i saw a woman with a big ass...i would say "Honey is my ass as big as hers" to which he knew the answer to say "No yours is a lot smaller". ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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Thank you fundmore for your willingness to allow me to blog!!! SweetCirce...many weirdos out there. But for every 10 weirdos there are one true and real ones. Dont despair my friend. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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I was merely playing with you fundmore. I never sweat the small stuff. Sexyman....i feel what you are saying but when one gives up dreaming of what may come one ceases to die within. Never say never!!!! ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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Well, I am very glad you don't have a penis Tigress ( from you last line in your comment ) I'm more on page with nd2hvfn on this subject.
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Me too Nice_Slow2 about the penis issue. Yes nd2hvfun said it in a nutshell. Right to the point. But i have to disagree with her...sometimes women fall just as hard and you only know when i phoned you from the swimming pool. I fell hard and you were there to help me piece my life to some normality. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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Well, Im gtlad I could help, my friend and yes I know, men are not the only ones to fall hard and take a looooooooooooooooong time to recover.
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No you are right Nice_Slow. Both genders fall just as hard when in love. Almost to the point of utter devastation. And it makes me feel like crap when i think someone truly loves me and hurts me to such an extent as he did. Will i ever get over it? Sure i will. Will i ever be able to love again? Sure i will. Will i be more cautious to give my heart right away? Damn sure i will. I may be blonde but i am not stupid. Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice....shame on you!!! I live by these words everytime i meet a new man. And trust me not many in Red Deer. But i live by these words often. I want to encourage men who have been hurt just to change your mindset. Make them prove their love to you outside of the bedroom. Get to know what makes them tick, get inside of their minds, get to know them as a person. This is what Nice_Slow has done with me and we are great friends. I know i could tell him anything and not be judged. These are the people you need in your life. Not some bimbo who merely needs sex. But someone who is willing to listen to you and get inside of your mind. Never settle for second best. And i dont give a flipping care if this is a sex site. We are all human and need to be treated like a human being...not like a piece of meat. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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Good observation EdmondTongue. And i would never want to generalize this topic to only women or just men. I personally believe both men and women get hurt to the point where their heart shuts down and does not allow just anyone in. That is where the walls come into play. The ones who are continually hurt have walls up high to protect their heart. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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