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Discreet - but asked to email facepic. Should you?  

rm_WalkSwim 60M
22 posts
2/21/2015 7:07 pm
Discreet - but asked to email facepic. Should you?
Say, a person that tries to be discreet (say, a married male, or a person who does not want others to know about his sex life and kinks) gets a request (usually from a lady) to send her his face pic.

Is it a good idea to send face pic to a person you never seen?
Do not send your face pick! You can suggest to meet in person in public place: she can see you and make a decision right there.
Just trust her (or whoever it is exchanging messages with you). Send your face pic.


northshoretake2 50M  
1626 posts
2/22/2015 9:54 am

 Fair enough. As I thought through your dilemma, I imagined the same scenario: Meet at a time and place convenient to the other party with zero expectations or investment and no emotional downside. That's a lot of hoops to jump through but I guess it's your only option.
Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.


rm_WalkSwim 60M
30 posts
2/21/2015 10:19 pm

 Interesting comments.
I must say that I have met several women and couples without sending any pics.
My argument: I come to a place of your choice, and you see me, and if you don't like it - no single word said, we are gone separate ways. You lose 10min of your time (if place is chosen conveniently for you). This way you can see real me, not a photo that could be years old but you can see real me.

This worked... but not always. In many cases I got a natural reply: "No face pic - no meeting."
It's OK, I take it as a trade-off for being safe. I heard also horror stories about married men sending face pics to a woman (or whoever it was) who chatted with them - don't know true or not but I better not take a risk.

I also had one incident where a woman wanted not only a face pic but to know where I work and other details - and that was certainly fishy, and others noticed that too.

Anyways, make your choices and appreciate choices of others.
Have fun!


northshoretake2 50M  
1626 posts
2/21/2015 9:27 pm

 I doubt there's a single woman on this or any other dating site that would meet a guy without, first, getting a face pic.
Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.


rm_WalkSwim replies on 2/21/2015 10:21 pm:
I can assure you that your doubts are wrong, believe or not.
Though for sure many would want a face pic as a must.

demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
2/21/2015 8:12 pm

 If it was an out of the blue "send me your face pic" then no. But if you've chatted a bit then sure. Unless you're one of the "want to flirt but not actually meet anybody" in which case no. Because if you're wanting to keep secret and nobody know who you are: then it's silly to share the pic. But if you're interested in meeting somebody in real... it's kinda a good idea to know who you're looking for.

Plus... seeing the eyes can tell a lot about a person.


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