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Am I expecting too much
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Am I expecting too much Ahhhh. My first blog post. Here we go. I have been feeling a little discouraged lately and has me wondering am I expecting too much. Am I? I just need a little bit of a connection with someone outside of just sex or should I say I want to chat about more than just the usual sex questions that get asked when you chat with someone. I need that to get some sense of trust especially with what I eventually want to accomplish with my kinky fantasy of being bound and fucked. There is a level of vulnerability in that and I need some kind of trust with that person. I always seem to end up with one sided communication with people that I find myself interested in and open to meeting with. We start chatting and then it stops when I ask other types of question or tell them to ask me any questions of they want. Or we chat on IM one time and they ask to fuck the next day. I don't operate like that. I have unfortunately tried the chat once meet and fuck. It went against my grain and ended up taking a toll on my mental. Had to take a few days to reconnect with myself. Am I asking for too much if I need a little time for the connection so that when we meet I am willing to give you my all. I'm not asking for long term commitment or for love. Just a little friendship, some trust, some assurance of safety. Should I not expect that from someone on this site? Am I the only one who requires this? What should I do because I am feeling a little discouraged and a lot self conscious at this point. |
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All comments are welcome and appreciated. I will do my best to respond to each comment.
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1 post 9/28/2016 12:06 pm |
I don't think you're asking or expecting too much. I also think that many on this site don't think the same way you do so it makes it much more challenging!
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You aren't asking for/expecting too much. Unfortunately, this site has too many people who are lookers and NOT doers. You are right to insist on some trust and safety - you want to enjoy the experience of being bound and fucked, not worry that you may end up in a car trunk. This is the internet - caveat emptor! If they drop off quickly, move on to someone else. PS - feel free to drop me a line - I have NO issues with some chat and questions, especially from a sexy lady who wants to be tied up and violated! Giggity!
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You aren't expecting too much at all. You want to feel comfortable with the person before sleeping with them. However, the best way to do that is to meet in a public place. A little chemistry goes a long way.
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Oh hell no ma'am what's wrong with a little chat/talking to people now a days hell I'd love talking to people myself personally, I was on all sorts of in the past but these days not many people use them and most of my friends have moved on or I've lost contact with them and I don't know anyone here so I don't talk with them 😊. So all in all ma'am what's wrong with you making a connection with someone here at least or a friend even before meeting up with the guy NOT a damn thing I say. Honestly what's up with these guys that think all you women are good for is a "quick fuck" so to speak. While yes it's all good for all those that all those parties/groups into that bs I'm all for that so be it go join those groups then there are plenty out there that will invite you to join them even, but there's always a time and place for these things and some women aren't into this sort of thing just like this lady isn't (I know I hate this bs for sure) So why not take the time and talk to her or anyone else these days? What's so important that you have to rush? Worlds imploding? World war three? Ooo ooo I know your girl friend is on her way home that's it right and you don't want to be caught?? What ever the case take the time go on the im chat get to know her at least sheesh people Sorry for my rant ma'am I'm bad it is not the gentle shower,but thunder.We need the storm,the whirlwind,and the earthquake
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Welcome to the blogs... You are not expecting too much. However, you will need patience to wade through the BS to find what you are seeking. Good luck.
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No, you are not expecting too much.And in the end it is you decision to whom you (continue to) talk and how far you want to take it. Bon chance! 
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No way are you expecting too much. I, myself, am the same way. I want quality over quantity. Maize is absolutely correct with his statement. You will need to wade through a ton of bs and fakes but you will find what you are looking for. I have found 2 that I can trust and have no fear with. Good luck and may you find your knight with shiny soft rope. Eyes are the windows to the soul Are you made of vinegar and water? No? Then quit acting like a douche. Not my monkeys, not my circus Luscious Lips
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It is possible here. No magic formula. Just be you, smart, careful. Know that all are not right for all. Stand by your principles, don't settle, be patient and be kind. And be honest and expect the same. Honesty will be the difficult one to be sure of. Don't waste your time on the rude and crude. You will do well.
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Yes it is possible, what you are looking for is rare and special but it does exist. I am in the same boat and I have found that it takes time, patience, and some luck to find it. Don't give up, that person is out there and looking for someone like you 
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The answer to that question... no. You are not expecting too much but you will not always find that here. I have been here for some time and you will find people here that expect and give exactly what you are looking for... time, respect, conversation and want to get to know you. You will also find plenty of people here just looking for the quick fuck and they don't care who you are or what your name is. You have to wade through the junk to get to the good stuff around these parts! Good luck in your journey!!  You can visit my blog here FreddiesFling!
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You aren't expecting too much. Your kinky fantasy requires a level of trust that takes time to establish. I wish you luck. If you would like to chat msg me.
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9/28/2016 3:06 pm |
Be true to who you are. Do not settle for anything less than what you need.
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Like the other comments here, I don't think you're asking too much. However, when I look at your profile, it doesn't really match what you say here: "Hello Gay Hookup Zone world. If I am online hit me up email, im, etc. I will do my best to answer you. I would like to think I am open minded. I like to hear about your fantasies no matter how kinky. I am a bit of a voyeur. I am a little vanilla when it comes to sex but I am ready and willing to explore kinkier things. If you want to know anything about me just ask and I will answer." Nothing about wanting to take the time to develop a connection before getting to the fun and games. A person needs to market themselves like a can of beans and part of that is being direct and clear about what they are looking for. There are a lot of people on this site who don't give a fig about any kind of emotional connection. It doesn't make them bad people, they just want something very different from you. It's good to let the ones who read your profile know that up front. If you think about it for a moment, it can take a long time to find someone you click with. It takes even longer if you are looking for an emotional as well as physical connection. You just need to be very clear in your own mind what you want and be willing to walk away rather than compromise because "maybe it'll be different this time". And it going to take time so you need patience, patience, and more patience.
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Hey just checked out your profile and definitely is a great example of what I need to do. If you don't mind me using yours as an example. Considering mine is a polite(ish) version of "leave me the fuck alone, I'll let you know if I'm interested" I'm not sure if I'm the best model for you to follow but it's up to you if you can find something you want to use.
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No, you expecting too much. Especially considering your fantasy.
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Like ever one above stated you're not expecting too much. It just shifting through the bullshit. I've done a few of meet and greets off of here. There has been guys that felt like what I post either in pics or on my blog meant that I would fuck on first sight. They were sadly mistaken but there are others that will get to know you and let you go at your own pace. Please, don't feel self conscious or discourage.
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its called self respect...and each of us defines what that is for ourselves....some women are fine with lining up blindfolded and taking on a train of anonymous guys, others seek commitment and monogamy....and everything in between. even us as a couple have to look each other in the eye or in the mirror and we do not want to be haunted by a sense of shame or regret. do what feels right for you and do not compromise.
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I enjoy chatting for a week or so and get to know the person. Prefer to meet for coffee and chat face to face. Then we can talk about getting naked together! 
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