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What are we, if not ruled by our needs, wants and desires? We are humans, not machines. Humans, need the warmth of other humans (mostly), want the touch and love of other humans in the process of fulfilling one's desires and fantasies.
I have travelled to various parts of the world, and the one thing that really makes a difference is the people and the relationships one forms.
Sometimes, I wonder why is it that we as a society shy away from those very things that make us really happy? I don't have a clear answer. Sometimes, it is the societal pressure, sometimes, it is one's own inner self.
All I say is that if you don't have friends like these, then you have not had anything in life.
It is indeed amazing...
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Posted:Aug 26, 2008 8:30 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 5:14 am
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The word libido is quite an interesting word isn't it? The text book meaning goes... The psychic and emotional energy associated with instinctual biological drives i.e. the sexual drive that all mammals, especially us humans have.
I am not particularly sure that it is only the 'men' who have massive sexual drives or overdrives. I think women equally have it as well, but the linkages with various other emotions are limited for the men, whereas for women it is linked with so many emotions that one can't actually find enough words to express them all. Not at least the way I see it.
I hail from the land of the Kamasutra. It is a country of a 1 billion humans, yet even today it is a country that hides its sexuality. Why, I still cannot fathom. Sex education is considered a touchy subject. Sex is a fact of life. Some are extremely comfortable with what it represents and what it means to have it, whereas most are made to feel doubly guilty about it. And I keep reading or hearing of so many instances where the frustration builds up into a cataclysmic moment... be it within the family or outside, the resultant act could be classified right from consensual sex to to !
My views may be more liberal than conservative, but with a certain point of reason. If we were to be a lot more open about how we feel and work towards a mutually satisfactory expression, wouldn't it be much better than keeping it bottled in, where a trigger (possibly not even considered such, by normal standards) would set off the chain of sequences leading to (in most cases) a not so desired end.
Grow up is all I have to say to all those neo-conservatives out there! And stop being the moral police, for enforcement would not work where discussion could.
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The weekend...
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Posted:Aug 8, 2008 8:50 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 5:14 am
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There was a stage with I used to view a weekend with a feeling akin to a sigh... for what's there to do... and then times changed... in some measure, thanks to Gay Hookup Zone... why? bcoz there are some really good people on this site and though still making friends is not easy, it is not an impossibility.
Point is how does one cross that initial barrier to actually start conversing?
What does it take for a person to realise that the person on the other end of the link is just as normal a human being as them? 
While I'm not surprised that women tend to be slow in accepting a man, let's face it... life is too short and weekends actually too less for us to sit at home and waste away watching good old TV...
So, why not reach out?
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Are the women here, real?
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Posted:Jul 4, 2008 10:10 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 5:14 am
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A bit of a potentially controversial topic to write about, but what the heck? Life is nothing but a risk taken and many a pleasure gained  LOL
The thought arose in that on Gay Hookup Zone, there are many single females and couples. I have met couples through this network and I must say that we all have had some pretty good times and remain friends to date.
But as another member got in touch with me recently to ask, whether I have really met any women through this site and my answer was, if it is single women you are referring to the honest answer is no! Now why is that? Aren't the women or at least the profiles that have an 'F' set, real?
This person also had another query... ever so often he would get added as a friend by an 'F' profile, but beyond that nothing. Now this got me thinking even more... why would a woman actually agree to be on a person's network of friends, but actually never go beyond that? No 'F' profile owner would just like that add a person as a friend, unless they have possibly seen something interesting about the person either in terms of the profile or the message sent. So, if they did find the person interesting enough, why stop with just that? Why not actually take it forward? Why not talk or chat or email?
Are the women here, real? is then a question that comes to my mind. If they are real, and they themselves have created their own profiles - and here I must add that there are some real women, who are clear that not all of them are searching for sex, then one thinks about the emotional essence for any woman. Is it that any or maybe even all the real women on this network, actually want to emotionally connect with a guy and then maybe, just maybe, consider the physicality of things? What then about the many 'F' profiles that actually say outright that all they are looking for is a no strings attached 'fuck-buddy' to use the term loosely?
I don't have any clear answers yet, but if there are some real women here, who would like to possibly solve this riddle, it would be interesting to see your comments/responses.
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A good weekend
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Posted:Jun 21, 2008 12:36 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 5:14 am
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This may be a good weekend, thanks to Gay Hookup Zone. I write about how it went
It has started off quite well for me, though it does mean, that I have actually spend helluva lot of time on the net, rather than having finished some of the stuff I need to do... but hey, boring stuff always gets pushed to the background, isn't it? LOL
Hope you all are having a great weekend.
Cheers!
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I'm back!
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Posted:Jun 19, 2008 9:40 am
Last Updated:Aug 8, 2008 10:31 am
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Hey world...
It's been a bit of an on and off journey with Gay Hookup Zone. Joining first as a standard member, moving up the ladder to become a silver member, then again moving off, and now coming back as a gold member! Gees... sounds like a love/hate relationship with this service provider! LOL
The simple truth is that when one is in a relationship, one really does not consider all the other opportunity generating options e.g. Gay Hookup Zone and the membership usually just withers away.
How good this site is in terms of actually giving us an opportunity to connect? Quite good I would say. Has it happened? Yes, I have connected in real with people through this site and I am happy to say that even now, we are very much friends.
This time, on coming back am also making some more friends than last time - must be the weather or age... dunno which.. LOL
So, life in Chennai continues on... music certainly makes a huge difference... Check out Live Twice by Darius... slow and easy...
That this is actually a decent city to live in can be contested by many people, but I think that it tends to grow on you. Yes, there are huge infrastructural issues, the traffic situation gets alarmingly abysmal every day, road rage is the norm, power cuts are standard, water supply is in shambles... yet for all its ills, it is also a city where you can be what you are. People are not out to change you and make you dance to a particular tune. The food variety (though predominantly south India) is still pretty good, though cosmopolitan factors are just beginning to come in. In the time that I have been living here, I have seen this place change on so many counts... some positive, some negative, but change in a manner that is completely incoherent in ways yet singularly affective of all who reside here!
More anon....
Cheers!
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That feeling... us, parasites, traffic, etc.
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Posted:Aug 14, 2006 8:54 am
Last Updated:Jun 19, 2008 9:45 am
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Don't know even how to pronounce, name, spell that feeling... but it dwells all the time in all of us. It seems to come out at times, makes us seem melancholic, leaves us feel dark and frustrated at times. I wonder, if we all are "set" in a certain manner... it is the result of civilisation and its influences on our brains or is it a genetic issue. What is it that leads us to believe that sometimes, life is rosy and fantastic yet at times leaves us feeling so down that you feel like yelling at the top of your voice.
Sometimes, I wonder if there's any hope for us at all! Equating humans with parasites may not be that wrong, you know... we multiply, devour, multiply, devour...endlessly. Today it is Earth. Tomorrow the Moon and then Mars. Our inablility to co-exist with each other at a level that leaves us in peace is simply fantastic. Inasmuchas it has led to some amazing discoveries, it has also resulted in a lot of spilt blood and dreams gone bad.
Let's take a look at the traffic situation in India. Pathetic! We have the best of vehicles in the world, our roads are improving daily but our sense of traffic keeps getting worse. Every 2 wheeler, 3 wheeler and large 4 or more wheeled vehicle driver thinks that it is his/her God given right of way, irrespective of whether it is the right direction or not. Pedestrians...bah... let's not talk about poor dead souls. Autorickshaws... a contraption and a driver designed purely to leave us cursing the very day some sod created this combination that leaves no gap unvisited. After all, how does it matter... "first me" and then you sods... haah... traffic police... guys who have a whistle stuck in their mouth, hands windmilling in all directions, completely ineffective in reining in a single motorist... most common excuse "too many drivers on the road...I don't want to get beaten up!"
What does it take to be a decent human on the roads of India???? An answer that I'm pretty sure is tough to provide!
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Nature, the most beautiful
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Posted:Aug 3, 2006 12:10 pm
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2006 11:22 am
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It may be harking back to the hunter-gatherer instinct in us. There are quite a few of us, who love to travel and enjoy the beauty that nature has provided for us to see, feel and appreciate - responsibily.
My biggest aim always has been to travel and not just see as much of our beautiful world, but also to meet and make friends.
I have to say that I have been lucky enough to be able to do this. Of course, some really hard work also goes into making it possible. My philosophy is 11 months of hard work and 1 month of enjoyable tourism.
Exploring natural beauty is as much of a joy as exploring beautiful humans and developing an affinity, a relationship with both.
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The urge!
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Posted:Aug 1, 2006 11:25 am
Last Updated:Jun 19, 2008 9:47 am
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Just think about this. Most males have in their sexual lifespans, been inclined to have it with as many women as possible.
The women I've spoken to about this, think that it is because there's only enough blood in every male to either power the brain or the cock!
Scientists say that it is a genetic pre-disposition in males to search out potential bearers for spreading the genetic pool.
However, in the last 5 decades or so, we have moved on from being just "producers" to "procreators". Therefore, the only reason a man would want to hook up with as many females and for any number of women who too would like to link up with multiple male partners (at the same or different times) seems to be the joy had in procreating.
All would have been hunky dory if this fact had been accepted socially. But that is not so. Be it the American, European, Asian or African context - culturally it is a sensitive issue, if any person has multiple partners. In some contexts lesser and in some, much more. Medically it is a sensitive issue, due to proliferating STDs and such sorts of problems (which are addressable though).
What we all do forget is that as like every thing else, there's a life-cycle for our sex life as well. It is something that most of us have and do experience on a daily basis. Tell me, honestly, who amongst us does not fantasise sleeping with one of the people we come across on a daily basis?
Rather than condone that our urges are wrong, and put a premium to the availability of such resources (which lead to a host of other issues), why can't we not appropriate the concept of freely enjoying what we can provide to each other? A question that flummoxes me!
I would be happy to see any opinions on this topic.
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