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Adult Frustration Finder
 
A journal of the ups and downs, and the joys and frustrations -- mostly frustrations -- of being an Gay Hookup Zone member.
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Action, not flirts
Posted:Dec 7, 2011 10:35 am
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2014 4:56 pm
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Had a recent experience on here that leaves me scratching my head.

I was getting flirts from a female who lives not too terribly far away from me, and with whom it appeared that I would be compatible with.

I met her criteria and she met mine. We could have hooked up and had a tremendous time.

When I say I was getting flirts from her, boy was I ever! Sometimes I would get three or four winks, kisses, smiles, etc. from her. I would always respond in kind and I emailed her several times. While I occasionally got a generic email back, she never responded when I gave her more personal ways of getting in touch with me.

Still, the flirts continued. Then, when she posted that she was going to delete her profile and to get in touch with her if anyone wanted to stay in touch, I sent her my information again. I got a couple of flirts back, but no response.

I'm not sure what the deal was. Why did she keep flirting if she was going to ignore my correspondence?

Too bad we never did hook up. She'd have been a great fuck.
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Stood up!!!
Posted:Jun 23, 2010 10:57 am
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2021 3:41 pm
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Here I come again, venting about something that happened that there was really no excuse for.

I knew I would be making an out-of-town trip so as usual, I did some searching and identified some women whose profiles appealed to me, and contacted them. One response seemed particularly interesting and willing, so we corresponded, exchanged Yahoo IDs, and conversed frequently there. We made our plans to meet the night I got into her town.

When I got there and checked into my room, I messaged her to let her know I was settled in and ready. She replied that she needed to get her to bed (she lives with her grandfather, so it's not like she was abandoning them or anything) and then she'd message me for my room number.

Then .... silence. Not a peep out of her. She didn't come back online, she didn't message me to tell me something had come up. Nothing. Not a word. Needless to say, I was pissed. I did have other opportunities to meet someone that night but opted for this particular person, only to have my choice rewarded with being stood up with no explanation whatsoever.

I didn't pursue it right away, but after several days I did message her on Yahoo and via e-mail here on A FF to ask what happened. So far, no response, and I doubt I 'll get one.

I can't figure this out. She was enthusiastic about meeting right up until the end. It's not the first time I've been stood up this year. But at least that time, when I contacted the person in question, she explained that she did get cold feet and it wasn't anything that I did, and she would certainly consider meeting me next time I made it to town since I was polite about what happened.

This is one of those things that ticks me off. A simple "I've changed my mind" or "something has come up" would have sufficed with no further explanation needed. But instead, I made my plans for naught. That really pisses me off.
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Louisville, anyone?
Posted:Apr 1, 2010 6:49 am
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 12:11 am
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If there are any females from the Louisville area reading, I will be in Louisville for business later in April. Would love to talk with some of you to see if we can create any mutual interest in meeting up for some fun. If you're near Louisville and might be interested in talking more, feel free!
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Doesn't anyone have phone sex anymore?
Posted:Mar 11, 2010 5:43 pm
Last Updated:Mar 11, 2010 6:59 pm
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I'll be honest -- I love phone sex. I love to talk dirty while I am stroking it and hearing the woman on the other end of the phone moaning or talking dirty in return while she plays with it. It's the next best thing to being there to do it live and in person.

But it seems like nobody has phone sex anymore. Wonder why that is?

Used to be, I could hop on AOL and 9 times out of 10, I'd soon be engaging in some long distance masturbation with Ma Bell helping out. It would either be someone I'd talked to before, or a new partner.

Now, it's almost easier to find an honest politician than a phone sex partner. Camming and using the mic on the computer seems to be the rage now, but those aren't options for me. And I don't like cyber. I like phone. Hot, dirty talking, moaning and groaning, phone.

AOL is dying. Chat rooms at the place are a clusterfuck full of bots. And the "cybersex" chat room here has very few women in it at any given time who are into phone. Lots of cams and invitations to chat, but no phone.

Is it too much to ask to find a female who likes phone? Or is phone sex a dying art form?
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The bots are getting smarter!
Posted:Mar 1, 2010 11:11 am
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2014 4:59 pm
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Seems that A F F is being invaded by fakes here lately. You know what I'm talking about ... there are a gazillion new profiles from people supposedly from small towns in the area. If you attempt to make contact with them, you'll usually get sent to some pay cam site or something like that. These aren't real people.

But are these fakes getting smarter?

Recently I saw a profile for someone who lives in a town not terribly far from me, but more importantly, lives near a place where I go several times a year on business. This person was in her 20s but said she liked older men, so I took a chance and sent an e-mail. The reply I got back seemed to be personally tailored to my inquiry and it included a chat ID for a place to be referred to as if you know what I mean.

I made contact there and we had what appeared to be a perfectly normal conversation. I mentioned I'd be in her area in a couple of days for a daytime meeting and asked if she wanted to hook up when my business was done. She seemed agreeable and started mentioning places. She was well-informed not only about places in the town where she said she lived, but in the neighboring town where I was going to be. She knew the names of streets, restaurants, motels and a lot of other details that would be known only by people familiar with the area.

All sounded good until she told me she wanted me to rate her in some sort of contest and sent me a link to sign up. And that's when I knew I'd fallen prey to yet another bot. I quickly blocked her on and laughed at my own gullibility. I'd been had by a smart bot!

Normally I'm good at spotting the fake profiles here, and wish there was some way to block them so they don't show up in searches, but this one was good enough to fool me. And the IM conversation was even more convincing.

So beware the smart bots, and don't sign up for what they're peddling. I know I didn't. I didn't get laid that trip, but there will be other times, I'm sure. I think I already have an encounter lined up for my next overnight trip there -- I'm hoping so, anyway!
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Oops, pardon the interruption!
Posted:Feb 20, 2010 7:16 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 12:11 am
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Haven't made a blog post in awhile, but figured I'd change that tonight to tell about something funny that happened to me last summer.

I knew I'd be traveling, so beforehand I made contact with someone on the other end of the state with whom I'd chatted before. We agreed to meet when I was passing through her area and I timed my trip to make my overnight stop in a convenient location.

I got my room, she joined me shortly, and we set about doing what we had gotten together to do. I had closed the curtains and locked the door to my room, but had neglected to lock the deadbolt. It didn't occur to me that I needed to do that.

Anyway, I was down eating at the Y and she was enjoying the hell out it when all of a sudden the door opened and two of the motel maids were greeted with the site of her with her legs spread and me eating that sweet pussy. I turned around, they gasped, and quickly shut the door. We certainly didn't expect that to happen! Why the maids came in my room, I have no idea. The motel wasn't particularly busy that evening and the room had already been made up earlier in the day.

At any rate, my partner and I had a good laugh about it. I didn't know the maids, and even though it was her neck of the woods, she didn't know them either and said she didn't care. I locked the door, this time making sure the deadbolt was secured as well, and we got back to business.

I have to admit, that was one of the more interesting encounters I've had.
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It's too hot to fuck!
Posted:Jun 23, 2009 9:13 am
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2014 5:00 pm
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And yes, there is such a thing as "too hot to fuck." It's never too cold to fuck, since sex creates heat, but when the temperature is 90 and the humidity is about as high, then it is officially too hot to fuck. If you're already sweating from just standing out in the heat, why in the world would anyone want to sweat more?

But it's never too hot to receive a good blow job!!!
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A simple request and a thank you
Posted:Jun 23, 2009 6:54 am
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 12:11 am
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It's a fact of life that some women are not comfortable seeing married men unless it's a couples thing.

Many of you who do not wish to see married men make that clear in your profiles, and for that I thank you.

But for those who do not ... if you are not interested in married guys, why not post it in your profile? If I see "no married men" then I'll pass that profile by.

It's a bummer to make a connection with someone, only to have them tell you they don't fool around with married men.

I make no secret of my marital status on my profile. But at the same time, I don't want to bother anyone who might not have an interest in meeting. So to save us all a lot of trouble, if you aren't interested in married guys, please say so up front. It would be greatly appreciated!
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Still a top pet peeve
Posted:Jun 6, 2009 8:28 pm
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2010 7:16 pm
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Whatever happened to common courtesy? If someone says hello, didn't your mother teach you to say hello back?

So why the FUCK are you people not answering e-mails? It's my belief that if someone takes the time to e-mail you, you owe them the courtesy of e-mailing back, even if you use one of those quick replies to say you aren't interested. I answer all e-mails -- although I do get nasty if it's a gay or bi male who can't read the NO MEN!!!! part of my profile -- and you should too.

My VIP membership lets me know if you've read my message. So now I know who the truly rude people are on here. To you decent, courteous people, thank you, even if you say "thanks but no thanks" you acted with respect and decency. To you others, you can kiss my fucking ass, you'd probably be a lousy lay anyway.
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WTF(lirt)?
Posted:May 27, 2009 8:09 pm
Last Updated:May 27, 2009 9:14 pm
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A month or so ago, I decided to go ahead and spring for a VIP membership, basically to be able to find out if the ladies I was e-mailing were actually reading my messages (since most of them still are so rude they don't bother replying; yes this is still a major pet peeve. Women, if a man takes the time to e-mail you, the least you can do is give a response; even if you aren't interested there is probably a Quick Reply that says why you aren't.)

A funny thing happened after I upgraded. I started getting flirts from "women" all over the world. These are women that I will never have a chance of meeting because they're in distant states and nations. I know I travel quite a bit but I'm not likely to be in Aurora, Colorado (the source of a lot of them) anytime soon. I put "women" in quotes above because I suspect a good many of them to be bots or fake profiles selling some porn or phone sex service.

WTF is up with that? What about the VIP status brings about all these flirts that I wasn't getting when I was merely gold or silver, or unpaid? Is there a logical explanation for this?

Quite honestly, I'd just as soon not have to delete these meaningless flirts. Now if a woman from the next county or a nearby town flirts, I pay attention to that.

But all these flirts here lately? I'll bet I've gotten more winks and kisses and smiles in the past two months than in my entire membership period prior.
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Bookstore & glory hole protocol???
Posted:Feb 26, 2009 5:12 pm
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2014 5:04 pm
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I've heard many things about adult bookstores, and the glory holes in the video booths, and have always been a bit curious about them. That curiosity was piqued recently when a woman from Lexington put up a profile in which she said she enjoyed going to an adult bookstore about an hour from where I live and sucking guys off through the glory holes.

I'd never been in one of these establishments until recently, when my travels took me past one I'd heard about before in Pliny, West Virginia. Curiosity got the best of me and I stopped and went in.

The way the place was set up, you had to pay $5 for a handful of tokens that operated the video screens in the booths. When I went in, there were a couple of women browsing about and I was in hopes they'd go back to the booths, but they checked out with some sort of merchandise and headed out the door.

After looking around for awhile, I offered my $5 and got a bunch of what reminded me of arcade tokens. I went back into the booth area and wandered around, trying to remember what the sign had said about which booths were for what. Although there were signs saying sexual conduct was strictly prohibited, I figured that was posted with a wink and a nod.

There was one creepy looking guy sitting on a stool, playing some sort of arcade game as I was trying to figure out where to go. I finally settled on a booth, looked inside, and sure enough, there was a hole cut out of the wall into the neighboring booth. I went in, locked the door, and dropped a token in the machine.

The choice of movies was weird. There were waaay too many man-on-man gay movies. I must say that I find the male-on-male sex act to be totally disgusting. Sorry, but I don't understand and guess I never will. There's nothing erotic about watching a guy suck another man's cock or fucking another guy up the ass.

There was one she-male movie, where one guy had a miniscule pecker but oddly-shaped tits, and he was getting cornholed. Yuck.

One movie had two guys and a gal, As the woman was having her pussy eaten by one guy, another guy was fucking him up the ass. Nasss=tee! My ass says "exit only."

There were no lesbo movies, and the hetero movies that were on had nothing to write home about. They must have been cheap foreign imports because no one was speaking English. I couldn't tell if the woman was saying "fuck me harder" or "hurry up, I have to go home and do laundry."

A few minutes later, I heard two doors close and tokens clunking into two machines. It wasn't long before the doors opened. My shitty movies were over so I walked out of the booth to see what was going on. I ran into the creepy guy I'd seen before, zipping up and tightening the belt on his pants. I figure he was the blowee, but I never saw the blower.

By this time I was pretty much disgusted, so I went back in the booth I'd originally been in, dropped the rest of my tokens in the slot, and tried to find some good old-fashioned heterosexual screwing. Even after I did, I didn't think it was worth sticking around for. I finally said "fuck it" and left with the nasty imported movie still playing.

The whole thing left me feeling kind of dirty and nasty, but it also made me wonder. Just what is the protocol for going to one of these places and getting sucked off through a glory hole? How are you supposed to know if it's a woman on the other end, or a man? Or are you even supposed to know? If I found out that I'd let another man suck my cock, I'd probably throw up for weeks and not be able to keep any food down, if I didn't cut my dick off and then blow my brains out.

I certainly wouldn't mind having "debbieswallows2," a 56-year-old female from Lexington, Ky., swallow a load of mine, but I wouldn't want to find out that some gay or bi guy had serviced me. Like I said that's totally disgusting in my eyes and I'd probably do something drastic.

So .... what is protocol for a glory hole? Someone educate me.
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Ladies, answer your damn e-mails!!! (Pet Peeve #2)
Posted:Feb 2, 2009 8:07 pm
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2009 6:30 am
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One of my biggest pet peeves about this place is the fact that people aren't courteous enough to answer their e-mail messages. I got into a huge argument with someone in the Kentucky-Tennessee chat room over this topic several months ago. He didn't think there was anything wrong with ignoring e-mails. Me, I was raised better than that. I think that it's downright rude and inconsiderate for someone to get an e-mail and not reply.

The way I look at it is, if someone took the time and trouble to e-mail you, you at least owe them the courtesy of a reply. Even if you have no interest in them, tell them so. Don't play childish grade school games by ignoring them. We are, after all, supposed to be adults.

If you don't feel like composing an e-mail to someone you have no intention of meeting or fucking, A FF comes complete with a whole bunch of quick reply one-liners to cover almost all situations, from "I don't meet married people" to "You're too old/young for me" to any number of other comments. Surely you can find something in A FF's repertoire of quick replies to send to let an e-mailer know you aren't interested.

(There's no excuse for anyone not to return an e-mail I send, because I have standard contacts as of the time I write this blog).

Personally, I answer all e-mails I receive. If I have ever let any go unanswered, it's been inadvertent. I even reply to the gay and bi assholes who solicit me, despite the "No Men!!!" so clearly marked in my profile. If I'm not interested, I say so. If I am interested, I let that be known too.

I was raised to be polite and courteous. And I expect to be treated by others the way I treat them. If I e-mail a woman and she doesn't answer back, then I have no choice to conclude that she's a rude and inconsiderate person and is probably someone I wouldn't want to fuck, no matter how pretty she may be. "Pretty is as pretty does," a matronly former co-worker of mine used to say often, and it's true.

Thanks for listening to another of my frustrations and pet peeves.
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