So ive never been the best with women
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Posted:Mar 26, 2014 6:15 am
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 10:12 am
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Fairly obvious statement as I am currently writing a blog on an adult dating site. It's not like I cant talk to women, infact I do so every day with a pretty much constant rate of success. They seem to find me funny and a little charming, though a bit oddball but not to a level I freak them out. Flirting has never been a major issue, sometimes it can take me a bit to find the right balance of sexual and witty but this can be appreciated at times, girls like to see you make an effort. In general I am quite a sociable person, with a pretty high level of confidence. And unlike alot of people I am very comfortable in my skin, suppose it helps that I am reasonably good looking. At this point you may be asking whats the issue then ? Or maybe you have spotted one I haven't ?
The problem lies in the so called "closing the deal". It seems time and time again I can get to the stage where we both would like something from each other, but can't get past that final hurdle. This isn't just with one night stand type things, it also happens with women whom I would like to date or would like to date me. Being 22 I have decided it is time this little issue was dealt with. So welcome to my blog of self development. I don't expect to become James bond, just be able to actually get to that point of what we both want. I will update with relevant stories and tales of my mission to be more fulfilled.
I will begin this blog with an example that happened just last night. Me and a large (20 odds) mixed gender group of friends went clubbing after a social gathering for a mountaineering club I am involved in. Recently clubbing has became one of my favourite activities, as I also recently gave up drinking alcohol. This may sound counter intuitive, but i love dancing like an idiot and letting loose, and clubs are a prime place to do this. I'm not the worlds best dancer, but i have a sense of rhythm and the confidence to just go all out even when sober. This behaviour usually attracts me alot of attention, and last night was no different. While dancing near my friends two very pretty girls decided to join in my dancing with me, After a little boogie together and some shared smiles back and forth I offered to buy them a drink. One girl who was giving/receiving more attention in regards to me acccepted the offer, but her friend was ok. I purchased the drink and continued the dancing. This time we had some light conversation while dancing, but nothing too intense as club, so loud music. After another little while i asked them outside for a cigarette. We went downstairs and got to chatting about being free spirited, her adventures at burning man, my adventures at raves I used to go to in the forest, her love of jewellery and other things which deviate from the boring what do you do stuff. So far all seemed good, we had some shared interests, some shared ideologies and enjoyed dancing with each other. Back in the club and we get back to the grooving. This time though I start to take her hands and dance with her like that for a bit, all seems good. Music gets harder so we go back to more rave appropriate type dancing ,then back to the holding hands. Feeling like i should take the chance i pull her in a little closer, bit by bit, all the while maintaining eye contact with her. She continues to smile and make eye contact until were are just about kissing. It's at this point she turns shy, puts her eyes down and slightly moves her jaw down. Not wanting to feel like I'm forcing her i back off a little but we keep holding hands. After this point we continued to dance together and she left for cigarettes/toilet but kept coming back. Eventually though it all just fell apart. Still dancing together some of my friends came over. One guy just kind of stood there staring at her and smiling and kind of dancing,after a few minutes of this she went to the bar. The staring guy left which she seen but she never came back. Instead she just went to the other side of the dancefloor and I never saw them again. I did pull up the staring guy as i was pretty sure he scared them off, not sure that was entirely it though.
So this is the start to give you an idea of how I am as is. I will keep this updated every week or so if their is anything to report. By doing this blog I hope to start giving out tips to other people in a similar situation once I start to find some solutions. Until then
Stay safe
Szeuchan
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