An unusual way to blow someone off........
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Posted:Sep 10, 2007 5:18 pm
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2008 11:09 am
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I haven't written a blog for a while and though the circumstances I'm writing about happened several months ago, it's nonetheless worthy of comment.
I had met this woman through Gay Hookup Zone and our first date was meeting in the afternoon at a bar for drinks. The conversation went well and there was a mutual attraction, so we went back to my place and had sex. We got together again the next two weekends... each time, she'd meet me at my place, we'd go out for a drink and then back to my place for sex.
We both wrote testimonials for each other and she commented that she particularly liked what I had to say about her.
After the third straight weekend where we hooked up, I asked her about getting together again. Her response was to decline, saying that she wanted to focus more on quantity and variety rather than get together again... her 50th birthday was approaching and she expressed her desire to see how many new guys she could hook up with before then.
The next few times I sent her an email or left her a voicemail about getting together again, she didn't even respond. I also noticed that she dropped me from her friends network and dropped out of mine.
I thought things went well when we did get together... and from hooking up three weekends in a row, I assumed she thought the same, so I was a bit surprised that she didn't comment or explain why she blew me off and didn't respond to subsequent emails or phone calls. I've gotten blown off before with no comment or explanation before, and I'm sure I will again, so that part of the situation isn't a huge surprise or shock... some people want to avoid such unpleasantries.
The part of this scenario that surprised me a bit and has me scratching my head, is that despite apparently not wanting to see me again, she kept my highly complimentary testimonial on her profile. I guess I'm not good enough to see again but I am good enough for advertising her "wares".
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Yes, I smoke!
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Posted:Jun 10, 2007 10:54 pm
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2007 3:04 pm
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As I wrote in a blog back in April, I am a smoker and that as sucn I am a social misfit, somewhere on the spectrum of social outcasts lower than a drug dealer, but not as bad as a .
I understand that that can be a moderate to extreme turn off for some people. I recently had two experiences within a few weeks where, after many emails, IM's, and phone conversations with a woman, in which we expressed a high degree of mutual interest we met, and early on she told me that my smoking was a deal breaker for her. In both cases, she had read my profile which clearly states that I smoke. One of the meetings was a bar near me for a drink and the other entailed my round trip drive of over an hour and me changing my plans for the evening to meet for dinner.
Even though, as I stated in my prior blog about smoking, I'm probably one of the most considerate smokers you will ever find, I do understand that for some people smoking can be a deal breaker. For those people, I have a few suggestions:
- Say in your profile that you are only interested in non-smokers.
- Read the other person's profile to see if they smoke.
- Ask them about that early on in the conversations/correspondence.
This will help to avoid both parties from spending the time in conversing and meeting and for both parties getting their hopes up in vain, when things are doomed from the start.
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Tits and dicks
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Posted:May 28, 2007 8:30 am
Last Updated:May 28, 2007 11:22 am
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In the last few weeks, a few different women have said to me that her tits got larger when she gained weight.
That got me to thinking... what would happen if men's dick's got bigger when we gained weight? It's probably a good thing that's not the case... if it were, there'd no doubt be a LOT more 300 plus pound men walking around.
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What the FUCK?!?!?!?!?
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Posted:May 17, 2007 12:20 pm
Last Updated:Jun 5, 2011 7:38 pm
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I received a VERY strange email from a woman on Gay Hookup Zone yesterday. Her email said:
"Is this the hairguynw that thinks he's good in bed? I here you have a limp dick, and have to try all night to get off. I have also been told you are lousy in bed and do nothing for your partner. Its time to re think this and get overself.
My hairy peach is not for you."
I clicked on her profile, and it said:
"Hello, I am looking for a man named HairyGuynw I have been told that he thinks he is the best at any sexual fantacy. I need to talk to him."
I immediately reported her for abuse and her profile was gone within 10-15 minutes of my report. As an aside, I have no idea how that profile ever got approved in the first place... I didn't think that personal attacks on another member should be allowed in a profile.
I don't know what I did to piss off whoever it was that started that profile or sent me that email. Gay Hookup Zone is a place to go to meet people for FUN and not as a place to go with some axe to grind... real or imagined!
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Drama
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Posted:May 13, 2007 10:41 am
Last Updated:Jun 5, 2011 7:39 pm
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I recently had to tell a woman I'd known for a while that we shouldn't see each other any more. The reason for this... DRAMA. She's one of those people who seem to crave drama in her life and it was always there with her... with herself, other guys, her friends, etc.
I don't understand why some people only seem to only be happy if there's a bunch of drama going on in their life... real or imagined... that consumes their time and energy.
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Masturbation contest entry
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Posted:May 10, 2007 2:01 am
Last Updated:May 10, 2007 12:59 pm
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I saw that Gay Hookup Zone is sponsoring a contest for the best masturbation story this month. I posted the follow blog on the contest page. (I had to cut some of the details short to keep it within the 300 word limit for the contest.)
I thought about other good stories... the time I was playing golf by myself and jacked off on the 6th and 13th holes while waiting for the group in front to get out of range... the times I'd stroke my cock while driving home from college at 65 mph with the cruise control on... the first time I discovered rubbing the spot just at the base of my balls and shot it so hard that I splattered my cum onto my pillow... the times I'd stop at a public restroom to jack off after reading porn back in college... etc....
My contest entry:
One night, my ex-wife and I had a party and there were four of left... my ex and I and another man and woman (not a couple when the evening started).
We were all drunk, dancing in the family room. The other woman took off her shirt to dance in her bra, so my ex does the same... except she wasn’t wearing a bra and her 38D’s were flopping free. Watching and playing with her big firm tits, I didn’t notice that the other two went into the laundry room.
My ex and I were soon naked and rolling around on the floor. She wasn’t on the pill and we didn’t have a condom, so she suggested anal, but the lack of lube ruled that out too. After a while, we headed up to bed.
Walking past the laundry room door, I heard her say to him, "I can't, but I don’t want to leave you like that".
After getting pillows and blankets for our guests, I found my ex out cold in bed. I went out on the deck for one last smoke before going to bed with blue balls, when I noticed a light from the family room window.
I went down to investigate and had a perfect view through the crack in the curtains of her sucking on his long hard cock. My cock quickly sprung back to life and I whipped it out from my shorts to stroke my hard cock as I watched her slurp on his big shlong. It didn’t take long before I "fertilized" the plants under the window with my hot cum.
I told my ex about that the next day and she made me promise not to tell our guests that I spied on them... but I thought of that with a grin every time I saw either of them after that.
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Unusual first dates
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Posted:May 4, 2007 2:33 pm
Last Updated:May 24, 2007 1:32 am
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I've had some VERY fun and interesting first dates through Gay Hookup Zone. The most typical first date has been meeting for a drink and then going home with each other. I've had several women invite me to come directly to their place, skipping the public meeting (including one who agreed to meet me at her front door naked). There was the woman who asked me to take her to an adult theater after meeting for a drink. I had a fun day eating a take out pizza on the beach and then hanging out most of the day before heading to my place. Etc.
But the most unusual first Gay Hookup Zone date was one a friend of mine went on. She met him at a bar and after a few drinks and some chat, they went to church for Ash Wednesday services (his idea, not hers). Needless to say, after that riveting evening, she didn't see him again. LOL
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When foreplay goes to far..... LOL
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Posted:May 2, 2007 1:15 am
Last Updated:May 13, 2007 12:26 pm
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I had an interesting experience tonight with an Gay Hookup Zone woman I've known for a while... and surprisingly, neither of us were too disappointed with how things worked out.
We were naked in bed and started with kissing and me fondling her great tits. Then I went to sucking on her protruding, chewy nipples, before moving down to lick her pussy.
When she'd had enough of that, I moved back up to lay on my side as she laid on her back. We kissed, while I was fingering her and she was stroking me. It felt really good for both of us and we kept that up for a long time... a bit too long.
The next thing I knew, I felt that familiar tingling in my cock and I knew it was too late to stop from cumming in her hand. The only thing my blurry mind could think of was to say, "You're doing too much with your hand", before I shot my cum all over her thigh, hand and my sheets. (Afterwards, we both got a good laugh at my comment. LOL )
Unfortunately, it was already getting late and she had to get going early, so she couldn't stay long enough to start again and do it again... but this time using my cock as it was intended, for some good fucking.
We both probably should've been disappointed to some degree, but neither of us were at the way things worked out... finishing with a hand job is SO high school. LOL
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Sexy women come in all different shapes and sizes.....
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Posted:May 1, 2007 6:35 pm
Last Updated:Jun 5, 2011 7:40 pm
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I’ve learned that sexy women come in all shapes and sizes. Sure, women in their 20’s with "perfect" bodies who could be underwear models, Playboy centerfolds or porn stars are great to look at, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re sexy in the sense of great to have sex with... and that's what's really important, isn't it? And besides, average guys in our 40’s like me don’t have a great shot of having sex with women like that.
I’ve said it many times and firmly believe it... sexy women come in all shapes and sizes and sexy is much less about their dress size and much more about their attitudes and actions. Some of the very best sex I’ve had and the sexiest women I’ve been with have been with women who are, objectively, larger than average and therefore in some people’s eyes not that sexy. People (men) with that attitude don’t know what they may be missing if they pass over a woman solely due to her size. And I should add, that I don’t have a large woman fetish and don’t go after them just because of that... what I’m saying is that I don’t run away from them because of that either.
What I’ve seen with the women on Gay Hookup Zone is how their body image goes a long way in how they describe themselves. The limited and somewhat arbitrary options we have here to use to describe our size contributes to that problem.
For example, I’ve seen two different women who, from their pics, I’d objectively describe as "a few extra pounds"... one listed herself as average and the other as large. (My opinion is that for most women around or over 40, a few extra pounds is pretty much average.)
I recently met a VERY sexy woman who initially described herself as "large" (she changed it to ample based in part on my suggestion... which is still overly critical) and she included a disclaimer about the size of her ass in her profile (which was also unwarranted... she had a really nice ass). (I hope she reads this... she’ll know who she is.)
What exactly does "ample" mean? Is it supposed to be something between "a few extra pounds" and "large" or does it mean something else? I’ve seen a few women who used that term and who were very ample in terms of having large breasts, but were otherwise average size.
And what about "athletic"? A woman can be BOTH athletic AND large (or "a few extra pounds" for that matter)... some women who are high level athletes in different sports who are both large AND athletic prove that.
My final thoughts are this…
- Women... be realistic and honest in describing yourself, but don’t obsess about it or worry too much about it... if you’re sexy, that'll come through regardless of your size, as long as you find men who realize that.
- Men... don’t automatically cross women off your list based solely on their size... you may miss out on some really fun and sexy women that way.
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Alcohol and hardons.....
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Posted:May 1, 2007 12:19 pm
Last Updated:May 2, 2007 12:17 pm
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Okay... I’ll make a confession about a topic that’s not often discussed here on Gay Hookup Zone. I occasionally suffer from AILDS... alcohol induced limp dick syndrome. A few times in recent months, after a night of drinking, my "equipment" didn’t work up to specs. After that happened a couple times, I started to get worried and even looked into some of the ED treatments, thinking that I may have to bite the bullet and try that.
But, after I gave some more thought about the circumstances, I realized that drinking was the common element every time that had happened. I confirmed that a few times recently when everything worked just fine when we had skipped the drinking earlier in the evening... including with women on a return engagement after an earlier bout of AILDS.
So now I need to do is some research to determine where on the spectrum between no alcohol and way too much does AILDS kick in for me... and adjust my evening’s activities accordingly.
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What REALLY turns me on
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Posted:Apr 28, 2007 2:14 pm
Last Updated:May 3, 2007 1:56 am
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Lately I’ve doing some thinking of what REALLY turns me on when I’m with a woman and what it takes to have really, REALLY great sex with them. And I’m not talking about what she looks like or things like that or about any specific things that we do. I’m talking about what she’s like when we’re having sex.
There are two particular "types" of women who really turn me on:
- Very responsive women… women who really respond to what I’m doing, especially those lucky multi-orgasmic women. It is such a HUGE turn on for me to know that what I’m doing is giving her a lot of pleasure (which is one big reason that I LOVE to perform oral sex).
- Very "giving" women… women who really focus on giving me pleasure. Needless to say, it’s always great when a woman goes out of her way to do things that I really love and which gives me a lot of pleasure.
But with either of those "types" of women there can be something missing. No matter how turned on I am when she has intense orgasms (one or more) if she doesn’t go out of her way to do things to really please me or no matter how much she focuses on pleasing me if she doesn’t get equal pleasure in what I’m doing for her, it’s not amazing, mind blowing sex.
The truly amazing, mind blowing, marathon sex is when she’s BOTH very responsive to what I’m doing for her AND very in tune with giving me pleasure. WOW! What more need I say.
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A skeleton in the closest
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Posted:Apr 20, 2007 2:43 pm
Last Updated:May 3, 2007 1:56 am
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Here's a letter to Dear Abby what never made it into the newspapers....
Dear Abby,
I am a crack dealer in Beaumont , Texas who has recently been diagnosed as a carrier of HIV virus. My parents live in Fort Worth. One of my sisters lives in Pflugerville and is married to a transvestite.
My father and mother have recently been arrested for growing and selling marijuana. They are financially dependent on my other two sisters, who are prostitutes in Dallas .
I have two brothers: one is currently serving a non-parole life sentence at Huntsville for the murder of a teenage boy in 1994. My other brother is currently in jail awaiting charges of sexual misconduct with his three .
I have recently become engaged to marry a former who lives in Longview. She is a part time "".
All things considered, my problem is this. I love my fiance and look forward to bringing her into the family. I certainly want to be totally open and honest with her.
Should I tell her about my cousin who voted for Bush in the last presidential election?
Signed,
Worried About My Reputation
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Dishonest descriptions in profiles
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Posted:Apr 14, 2007 10:39 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2007 1:56 am
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I recently told this story to a woman and she told me that I should post a blog about it. It's about people being dishonest or deceptive in how they describe themself on their profile.
First of all, I do understand that it's common for people not to be completely honest and forthcoming when describing themselves online. To some extent, that's natural and expected... we are, after all, trying to put our best foot forward. People exagerate a bit about their age, body type or height, post an outdated photo, etc. I've also figured out what "prefer not to say" usually means on a few of the questions... for marital status it means "married and cheating" and for smoking it means "I smoke, but don't want to be ruled out by non-smokers".
But a few years ago I came across one example where dishonesty on a profile crossed the line.
I had emailed this woman and she was interested. After several IM conversations and a round of pretty good phone sex, we agreed to meet the next day. She lived in a rural area outside of Kingston (a ferry ride away for those outside of the Seattle area) and had some kinda car trouble so she couldn't meet me at a bar. So I agreed to meet her at her house.
I didn't think much of the fact that there was an old camper in the driveway as I approached the house. A voice came from the camper window saying that she was in the camper. I went in to the camper where it was very dark. We started kissing and soon my pants were around my ankles and she was giving me a blow job.
It was when I reached into her panties that I got my HUGE surprise... she was a he!
I was pissed off about the deception and that wasn't what I wanted... but the blowjob did feel very good and it was too late to stop that. So I waited until after he finished sucking me off, to tell him that wasn't what I was looking for and to get dressed and make a polite but quick retreat.
Later, we chatted briefly on IM about his dececption. I told him that I didn't appreciate being lied to and that's a good way for him to get beat up or worse if he fooled a less open minded or more homophobic man. He said he thought I knew the truth. I replied saying that I did not and that in our phone sex the prior day I was not speaking in code... that when I said I'd lick her clit I didn't mean suck his cock or that when I said I'd finger her G spot I didn't mean his prostrate.
In hindsight, there were a few clues that I overlooked... his raspy voice that I attributed to a heavy smoking woman and the pitch black camper... but that didn't excuse the deception!
As an aside, with the very next new woman I met through Gay Hookup Zone, as we were undressing, she started to warn me that she had had surgery years earlier... my first thought was "oh my god, she used to be a man"... but was relieved when she told me that she had had a cyst removed from one of her breasts and as a result they were very disproportionate in size.
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